FoUrty…forty…For Tea?…No, 40! ahhh…40

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FoUrty...forty...For Tea?...No, 40! ahhh...40Simply writing this blog entry is a manifestation of what I’m thinking about right now.   As I sat down to contemplate some philosophical, far sighted slant on pop political or corporate interest; I am distracted by the fact that a very interesting phenomenon has occurred in my life.

I’ve turned 40.

I know that I’ve turned forty because as I sat at my computer, watching the very beginnings of the new day wrestle with the lazy star filled skies of night, a notion to turn on some extremely invigorating Kenny Tamplin came to mind.  As the coffee maker’s trickling sounds melted into screeching guitar licks surrounded by driving base chords and a drum like a monotonic jack hammer filled the office space, my mind became cluttered, scattered and reckless.  I couldn’t formulate the feelings and thoughts I was about to write anymore.  My blood pressure became elevated, evident by the restlessness of my hands and the full hot feeling in my ears and neck.

I couldn’t put my finger on what was bothering me.  I tried to write once more, only to be distracted and frustrated as the next music track began to throb in my ears.  Then it came to me.  The music was driving me crazy!

I quickly turned off the music and clicked on a new CD I bought for my lovely family and myself on my birthday.  The name of the CD is called “Lakeside Retreat.”  It’s a smooth and soft melody filled with the chirping of early evening crickets and peeper frogs.  The sounds that bring me back to early springtime sitting on the deck overlooking our pond and wooded back yard.

Stars began to sneak out for a night of frolicking and memories of love and peace filled my heart.  My blood pressure began to decrease and feelings of appreciation filled my heart.

I began to remember the philosophical memoirs that ached to be written with edgy conviction for ethical free enterprise.  Visions of a successful business that saves precious lives directly and indirectly while providing for my best friend and eternal companion.   Visions of our lovely children playing in the warm sunlight and the smell of fresh coffee filled my senses.

Is this what it is to be 40?   If so…let it be.

Roy Shaw

Roy Shaw

Roy is the lead trainer and co-founder of ProTrainings. He is also an EMT paramedic whose opinions about rescue come from many years of experience on the ambulance. In his spare time, Roy is also the host of a video podcast called Roy on Rescue, a show where Roy lets his “Training Mask” slip a little and reveals some of the more personal things about himself and his business and training career.

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  1. Lorelei

    Hi Roy,

    I have the same problem, except I will be turning 50 this year. I said it out loud just last week to a colleague at work. Most everyone who knows me thinks that I am about 40, so the surprised looks I get is even harder to process. In contemplating what 50 feels like, I can tell you that it has to do with paying even more attention to food labels (watching for hidden MSG), eating organic everything (screening for added hormones and antibiotics), and attending even more closely to relationships around me. “Life is too short” is also starting to take on a whole new meaning! Thanks for the forum!

  2. Becky

    I can’t help but chuckle a bit. It seems that everyone that hits a new decade goes through similar realizations…then we eventually adjust. I’ll be approaching a new decade in 2010. Like Lorelei, many don’t know that I’m in my upper 40’s (I can’t imagine why) and that’s fine with me AND I don’t care if they know my age because then they can still be surprised that I initially don’t look (or act 😉 my age. The arrival of each decade affords us with a new realization. In our 40’s we tend to think of what we have achieved, what we could have achieved and what we should do to make things right. I’m not sure what our 50’s bring, but I bet it has something to do with arrangements for the next 30 or 40 years.

    One cool thing I’ve noticed as I get older is that my brain and body tend to rebel against my desired actions with common sense over the torture that I used to put them through. I can no longer stay up all night studying for exams nor can I handle 2 full time jobs with very little sleep like I used to. When I look back, I don’t know how I managed things like that before. These days, my body gives out on me by 11 pm. If I were to ever try going to clubs I’d end up falling asleep while the night was still young.

    The thing to remember is to be your best at any age, take care of your body (it’s the only one you’ve got), tie up loose ends and continue to make a good mark on your world AND forget about your age 😀

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